You may find the following resources helpful:

• For information on couples support in a non-therapeutic, non-denominational context, visit the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment (ACME), Silicon Valley Chapter  website
• For informative and fun couples workshops in the bay area, check out Susan Hennings workshops
• For a differentiated view of intimacy and coupledom, read David Schnarch "Passionate Marriage"
• To discern how we pick our partners and then wrangle out our differences, read Harville Hendrix "Getting the Love You Want"
• If you or you and your partner(s) follow an alternative sexual lifestyle, you might find these websites helpful: Reviews of Books about Polyamory and Sex Coaching
• For a lovely template of growth through personal strengths, visit Dr. Martin Seligman's Authentic Happiness website. Here you can take the VIA Signature Strength survey.
• Changing your thoughts to change your mood; for practical tools in fighting depression and anxiety, read David Burns' "Mind Over Mood" and "Feeling Good"
• To set the stage for fair fighting, have a look at Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L. Blumberg "Fighting for Your Marriage"
• To explore the integral issues of growing older, read Rowe and Kahn's "Successful Aging"